Paradigms, Perspectives and the Present

Anne Archer starred in a film with Cuba Gooding Jr., James Woods and Angie Harmon in 2005 called End Game. Annes character was the wife of the President of the USA. In a scene from the movie Anne's character had been working on a painted triptych when Cuba's character Alex Thomas entered her studio. Upon seeing the three paintings, he said it is beautiful, as much to be polite as to suggest he didn't understand why three paintings, when Anne's character said "you don't see it Alex, you are so close, but you still don't see it do you". "Stand over here where I am" and only when he did so, did he see the three paintings seamlessly blend into one image. The point being, that often what we see or experience is only ever from one way - our paradigm or perspective. We assume, often incorrectly, that we have all the facts, that we understand the whole situation or person or people and are content with what we see to be sufficient or enough. Only when we venture to "walk" in another's shoes, or stand where they stood, or disengage our own thoughts and prejudices do we glimpse the dimmension of elements that blend together, that Anne Archers character was trying to portray. This principle of understanding settled deep upon me in this last trip to the Philippines.
I have been to the Philippines some 10-12 times over the last 24 years and each time have often compared the country, the life there to the life I have in Australia, and often times I come up short. I have often judged the Philippines and other Asian countries I have visited by an unmeasurable yardstick. What surprised me the most was the way in which I disengaged my thoughts and prejudices and for the first time in my 10-12 visits saw the part of the Philippines I visited for the first real time. Strange as that may sound.
As a missionary in the Philippines from 1984-86 I came to love the people, I saw some staggering things, experienced great love for the perspicacity of the Filipino people generally, saw great jubilation in one of the worlds greatest ever people power revolutions which saw the demise of then President Ferdinand E. Marcos, I witnessed the renewed feeling of independance and national pride, all the while seeing the poverty and lack in the philippines as a passing monologue that chattered in the background.
Each successive visit, seems in hindsight like a passing parade where I would ride triumphantly through, wave the hand like that of a passing dignitary and blow a few kisses and leave the country feeling the trip was worthwhile.
This last trip has enlarged my capacity for compassion and heartfelt understanding of a people that have for the most part learned to accept things they cannot change, and learned to accept the diversity of people and find a simple joy in a life that most westeners would find terminal. I saw for the first time, I mean really saw, people whose lives are so different to mine. I saw people who have resigned themselves to their "lot" in life, and amidst the hopelessness I felt, they smile, they laugh, they truly laugh. For the most part the joy of the rural filipinos is very simple. I walked one morning to the Barangay bus shelter, which was dilapidated and dirty by western standards, and sat there and watched life pass by for a few hours. As I did so, with the camera and lens I was holding, and being white with shorts and Tee shirt, I stood out like a stain on your shirt.
I was a bit of a novelty and attracted an audience. Some 15 people comprising of children, teens and adults came and sat next to me, stood near me and just stared, not even pretending to look away! So being able to speak smatterings of the dialect I spoke and and joked with the people so they would feel comfortable, and in a hope that they would not roll me and take my camera. A couple of people did not smile at my humour or laugh but looked at my camera much more than they did me. It was then that I realised I felt really careful for my safety. The extended members of family who had advised me not to go to the place I did, were worried, but I refused to simply sit in a hotel and or house everyday fearful I could be mugged, though I felt it was a very real possibility a couple of times during the visit.
I singled out one of the men who was unresponsive and asked him about his life. After some cajoling from me and the other "stand by's" around us he opened up a little and said what his life is, what he hoped and what it had become. There was a strong difference between the expectation and the reality. The words of a song from the musical version of Les Miserables came to life when Fantine sings of the hope and despair her life had become. The man looked at me and said
your rich!", to which I commented that I was so not rich, my life has much lack, and then he looked at the camera and said "but you are here!, I cannot go there." Hard to argue that to someone whose house consisted of a few bamboo rods and a thatched leaf roof. Whose clothes showed the wear that comes from overly soaped clothes that never quite got the true rinse they needed, and the stiffness they imbue as a result, whose thongs were worn and I am sitting with the cool T-shirt and shorts and camera. My heart went out to him. Then I saw the people around, I made some more jokes and did a ittle dance to get them to laugh and they all did, I wanted them to feel that I was OK and that I was not better than them, I truly felt in many ways they were my superior.
Within a short time of this occurring, the family Starex van with the reflective blocked out windows picked me up and I was whisked away into the city for some shopping and eating, but the small impact of that brief time did not leave me as I shopped, nor even now.
I will be writing a few blog entries about the Philippines and sharing pictures I took over the next little while. I took hundreds, actually thousands but as i said to one of my blogger friends whom I respect, I need to have the experience distill upon me and develop more, and I have no doubt that will occur as I share more of my thoughts and feelings about the trip.
I will end this section of the post by saying that the paradigms and perspectives I had have changed... Again. Not by an earth shattering event or dazzling lights but by the example and simplicity of a people who have arrived at an acceptance of little more than right here and right now. I am amazed at the ingenuity of the people, I am in awe of their resourcefulness, and I love their resilience. They accept who they are, and for the most part, don't try to be anyone else, their quirks and idiosyncrasies make them a warm, unique and "rich" people. People who live in the now. I saw that seemingly unconnected things when viewed through the right perspective, seamlessly harmonise to become one tapestry or painting that is blended, sweet and inspiring.
After returning last week, I have come to the conclusion that my life by comparison to so many IS rich, IS full of hope and excitement and I want to ensure I live worthy of the opportunity that is afforded me when so many, many other people struggle. I need to learn to live more in the now, and as I was reminded of, tomorrow is the future, yesterday is the past and all we have is now, which is why it is called the present. more posts will come.





A friend, Jim wrote on his blog about the Philippines from a very different perspective, but the underlying current of the story he wrote about I saw clearly. You can read Jim's post here http://haringliwanag.pansitan.net/?p=549
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Looking forward to more posts and photos...
From the little I have gotten to know you, I would have thought you would be one of the LAST persons to "sit in judgment" on someone else! You judge yourself a lot, or have for sure in the past - I've seen it in your writings, but you've grown so much in the last several months ... an emotional maturity and a self-confidence - all that goes along with a healthy self-image and ego. When one's concept of self is healthy, there is no need to sit in judgment on someone else. Enjoy the things you have in common, laugh at mutually funny occurrences, commiserate and offer friendship and warmth at sorrowful events, rejoice in glad tidings, and appreciate and respect the differences.
Did you happen to catch the several part series that PBS ran recently on India? Excellent! It's distantly related to some of what I'm trying to say here.
Each person, each circumstance is unique. No matter how hard we might try to put ourselves in another's place in order to better understand, we are asking ourselves to achieve the impossible! We can NEVER put ourselves in another's place. We are not that person. We have not lived their lives and do not have their DNA or experiences. All we can do is acknowledge those facts and acknowledge the differences. That's it, Craig!
You've taken yet another huge step forward in your mission to understand and accept yourself w/o being judgmental. You will find more and more, as you become secure within yourself, that you will have more "Aha's!" in how you see and interact with others who are different from you. You have some pleasant surprises ahead of you! VERY pleasant!!
You were very young when you first went to the Philippines as a missionary. Young impressions are remembered for a long time, and often color not only one's memories but one's current views and actions.
I laughed out loud at your 'visiting dignitary' (my phrase) paragraph. I found it hilarious!
This comment has become almost a post in and of itself, hasn't it? :( Sorry about that!
A couple more things, and I promise to be quick. Wasn't it Mark Twain who wrote, "When I got back home from college, I couldn't believe how much the old man (referring to his father) had learned in four years!"? And, of course, it was just the young man's perspective that had changed.
The second is something I left out of that Charles Schulz post. It was in the e-mail, but it really didn't fit in with the rest of the message. It fits in here.
"Be yourself: everyone else is taken!" Rrvit! I love that one!!
Great post, Craig! Lots of thought and effort went into it. I can see why it took you so long to put it together. (I'm going to keep a copy of this comment when it comes back to me in an e-mail. It'll be useful for a post I'll be doing a bit later on down the road. Not trying to pat myself on the back with the quality of this comment, I hope you understand, but - all the while I've been writing it, other thoughts have occurred to me, and I think that they'll come back if I'm able to read it again later. It'll be another one of those "takes forever to put together" types.)
PS. You said in a different post that your prefacing comments had disappeared into NeverNeverLand (my phrase) and you'd had to redo them. Boy, that's frustrating, isn't it? I've had that happen a couple of times. Somehow or another one of my fingers has hit a "NO NO" key inadvertently, and I've had to redo the whole thing. The last time it happened, I was tempted to just blow the whole thing off! Congrats to you for sticking with it!!
Thank you for taking the time to post this comment, it means a lot to me.
Your saying, "Others may successfully argue that there 'needed to be' ..." just incensed me! Who are these "others" that they should feel themselves qualified to sit in judgment on you? That's not a question I want you to answer, Craig ... of a rhetorical nature, only! I mean, how dare they even suggest such a thing!?!
And, of course, these 'others' are probably one of the main reasons you decided to moderate your comments in the first place. The fact that they have no lives of their own does not give them the right to sit back and judge yours. That's just my opinion, you understand, but I'm sticking with it!
Only YOU are entitled to 'successfully (or not) argue' such a personal debate topic, Craig. No one else should have the audacity to try and do so.
I wish you continued enjoyment of your "Aha's!" - and congrats, by the way, on your new album cover commissions! Good on you!!
This is a wonderful entry. Juxtaposed with what I wrote, I think we both captured true but different aspects of the same subject. But I must agree that Filipinos are warm, gentle and DO have gratitude for the most simple things. There is an acceptance for things that cannot be changed brought about by a gratitude for what is wonderul about any moment we are in.
The most amazing thing about this entry is your openness. I just love how you can look at other cultures with open eyes and thus catch the nuances in our reality. It is not something a lot of people who visit the Philippines can do.
Mabuhay ka, Craig!
Jim